Anger took over my life. I say that because my anger used to be so out of control that I could not handle it. It hurt my relationships, it hurt my job, it hurt me. When I got angry, I would start shaking, my breath would get fast , and I felt out of control. Thankfully, with some hard work, I now control my anger instead of the other way around. I’ve been able to recognize that I cannot control what angers me, but I can control what I do with my anger. The first step for me was to understand it. I asked myself these three questions about my anger:
1. How does it feel like in my body?
2. What do I see?
3. What does it help me do?
Furthermore, I needed to understand how this was negatively affecting my life. I took a survey of the effects of my anger on my life:
*Damages my relationships
*Costs me money
*Hurts my health
*Feeling out of control
*Damages my career
Finally, I changed the way I thought about my life and the events that happened. Emotions, all emotions are valid and natural responses to certain events. However, feelings do not excuse inappropriate behaviors. Respect is a must, respect for self and respect for others. I was able to process underlying unhelpful beliefs about life, which has led me to my passion to help others with the same!
Contact Ashelei today for help with your anger!