Anger took over my life. I say that because my anger used to be so out of control that I could not handle it. It hurt my relationships, it hurt my job, it hurt me. When I got angry, I would start shaking, my breath would get fast , and I felt out of control. Thankfully, with some hard work, I now control my anger instead of the other way around. I’ve been able to recognize that I cannot control what angers me, but I can control what I do with my anger. The first step for me was to understand it. I asked myself these three questions about my anger:
1. How does it feel like in my body? 2. What do I see? 3. What does it help me do?
Furthermore, I needed to understand how this was negatively affecting my life. I took a survey of the effects of my anger on my life:
*Damages my relationships *Costs me money *Hurts my health *Feeling out of control *Damages my career
Finally, I changed the way I thought about my life and the events that happened. Emotions, all emotions are valid and natural responses to certain events. However, feelings do not excuse inappropriate behaviors. Respect is a must, respect for self and respect for others. I was able to process underlying unhelpful beliefs about life, which has led me to my passion to help others with the same!
Contact Ashelei today for help with your anger! firstname.lastname@example.org